The goal of g0ysRus Website is to get you from step one to a point that you have some form of g0y knowledge under your belt. The information contained within the pixel dust walls ofg0ysRus website is derived upon a multitude of practical knowledge and personal experiences with all the members of g0ysRus or any other g0y site and or its participants. I have talked with other guys with many questions and problems encountered in their personal journeys. We will try to give you the advantage of their questions and concerns for the beginning g0y.

There are many g0y sites and groups opening up across the United States and the world by other g0y men. The collection of knowledge about g0ys is infinite and no one person has all the answers — in fact, many of the answers will often conflict with one another. The (New g0y) is often confused with the use of terms by g0ys and differing advice given by g0ys. Just remember, g0ys are individuals and come with different and varying experiences and prejudices. I always advise all g0ys to keep an open mind when it comes to receiving advice and develop ideas or style of g0y that is comfortable for yourself rather than trying to live the dreams, style and ideas of others, For example, g0ys will differ in part or in whole within their opinion on what it means to be g0y! What is best for one g0y may not be the best for another g0y.

We will try to include differing opinions when discussing some g0y topics. What you do with the opinions is up to you. Just remember the goal here is to keep the g0y moment alive without causing the group or any of its individuals any harm while at the same time, allowing us all to enjoy the company of all members here or anywhere for what they are.

We all come to this subject with an interest, understanding and knowledge based upon our past life experience. If your past experience includes some information on g0ys that would be beneficial to the group, then please, feel free to pass over the information you already know to the group. Our goal is to add to your information based upon our own experiences.

The g0ysRus WEBSITE is dedicated to making our journey together as an rewarding experience possible by avoiding certain pitfalls — pitfalls that have caused other g0y dudes serious problems.

g0y Fundamental Beliefs

• Right to express emotions freely.
• Right to wander and explore.
• Right to be curious and play.
• Right to be unshaven and musky.
• Right to be naked.
• Right to have an erection without shame.
• Right to choose environments and relationships freely.
• Right to spend quality time with other males without intoxication, competition, or non-males being involved.
• Right to have close, loving, and caring relationships with other males without interference.
• Right to a stable, non-imperial, all-male, secure area to play in.
• Right to have a strong, positive role model/mentor when young, right to be a boy’s role model/mentor when older.
• Right to be in his child’s life beyond discipline and economic support.
• Right to not have his masculinity questioned or defined by an outside source, especially by a non-male.
• Right to recover traditional ancestral heritage, culture, faith, language, and lifestyle.

My best wishes for your success in each one of your personal journeys.

It’s the Connection

Out of the research I’ve done on the Internet about everything “gay” – It’s been my observation & experience that being “g0y” is about the deep connection between a couple of dudes. That connection begins as a friendship that gradually deepens to the point where defenses come down & inhibitions drop as a bond of powerful affection grows – often beside an appreciation of each guy’s masculine traits & physique.

Love is a complex, wonderful language that expresses itself in many ways. Sharing property – such as living space, money or vehicles with another person makes a powerful statement. Sharing laughter, deep conversation & personal issues – likewise is often a strong step toward intimacy. Between a couple of men, reaching a point of trust where sharing touch, nakedness & mutual climax is the ultimate bond of intimacy between a couple of buds.

In my experience, there is a place in the heart of most men where they want affirmation from other strong, masculine men that affirms them as men & does not threaten their masculine core. Is this not exactly what sons want from their fathers on a basic emotional level? Likewise, guys shun ‘sissy-bois’ because sissies do not affirm a joint sense of masculinity. Aggressive boys fight & aggressive bois phuck – - all done for masculine affirmation. But, that affirmation is one of outward roughness & shunning of external perceptions of weakness.

And what is the emotional reaction when one tough guy makes it clear that he values the other guy as much – even more than himself? How does the man feel who realizes that his friend will not raise a hand against him in conflict because his friend values him more as a person than his right to ‘exact vengeance’?

I think we’re beginning to uncover the difference in the feelings between the depths of masculinity vs. the petty vindictiveness of effeminate thoughts, acts & lifestyles of the cowardly. Being g0y is about the deep connection. Being g0y is about loving the wholeness of the other guy so much that the barrier to touch, closeness & emotional intimacy dissolve.

It is a deeply intimate & private thing – never to be lauded or flaunted. Being g0y is a mindset that says (often nonverbally) “Although I am a guy with an arsenal of assault weaponry as close as my fists, — I value you so much that I want to make you feel good – & feel accepted by me – a peer.” It says, “As a guy, being naked makes me vulnerable – but I trust you to be so with you.”. It says, “As a guy, I know that being touched like this has great meaning & feels very good when done in proper context & with total respect; – & because I have such feelings toward you – I enjoy touching you in this way because I accept you totally & want to make you feel very good when near me.” It says, “I accept you without reservation – from your embrace – to your hardened penis that is expressing your mutual feelings as it frantically disgorges the evidence of your reciprocated appreciation – as mine answers in kind.”. It says, “Relax into my hug & into the afterglow’s peace – with no anxiety, or fear – because you are loved & accepted as the virile guy you are; – And I affirm you because I am likewise, such a guy.” It says: “I will never show other’s your weaknesses or do anything that puts you in the light of compromise. I value the secret depths of our friendship so much that only with mutual consent would I ever disclose them.”

Because this is the heart of being g0y – it is why the “gAy” community is virtually unaware of our presence & society does not comprehend our number. G0Y is about the “connection”. It is about the sacred trust of love between guys who show their soft-undersides to each other in a paradigm of “being tough”.

This is what men want & why so many who are in this group have come here. This is the focus of what so many guys write to me about. This is what is missing from the visage of the “gAy male community” as it thrusts it’s arse into everyone’s face.

We are the g0ys. The distinction is self-evident & if you knew who was among our numbers … you’d be astonished!

It comes up in chat rooms and conversations more & more: “That G0Y thing.”  Everybody wants to comment without anyone seeming to actually read the website … so, I’ve put this page up to TRY to explain (once again) what a g0y is:

G0YS (Spelled with a ZER0) are guys who find men physically & emotionally attractive, but (for whatever reason) are offended with the stigmas that currently define the ‘gay community’ in the public psyche.  G0YS recognize that the prominent facets of the “gay-male” community tend to embrace every gender-bending act, fetish & affectation; –And include those things in the general specter of the image that “gay” projects publicly.  The easiest to observe example is the commonly used acronym “GLIT” (sometimes “GLIB”) meaning Gay, Lesbian, Intersexed, Transgendered (or BiSexual).  The fact that “GAY” is grouped with “Intersexed & Transgendered” is evidence to our primary point showing what the term “GAY” has morphed into.  G0YS reject those associations completely & consider it a form of gender-prejudice against men who love men.

Behaviorally: Anal-sex is innately shunned by g0ys – as it represents the ultimate form of sexual disrespect whether male/male or male/female.  Other distasteful stereotypes include (but are not limited to): Effeminate behavior, extreme passivity (like cowardice) & drag.  G0YS don’t call other men “girl”, “bitch”, “queen”, etc.  You probably get the idea.

G0YS also reject (due to well developed theology), the lax & lazy prejudices that have arisen in conservative fundamentalist circles against all same-gender sexuality.  In Christian circles, this travesty has arisen due to the extremely sloppy exegesis (& outfight fraud) of (6) verses of Scripture, w. a total failure to rightfully divide the Word.  This becomes quite apparent when the theme of the New Testament is held up as a standard, & these anti same-gender teachings are examined in light of that theme. Very briefly, Romans chapter (1) is a scathing commentary exposing temple prostitution & Anal-sex (Women w. men, & men w. men; — N0T what is called ‘homo-sex’).  This is made very clear by other writings of Saul/Paul himself, & a warning from Peter about those who would misinterpret Paul’s writings.  Paul writes that those who did these things received within themselves the due penalty for their perverse behavior – & that penalty was death.  Likewise, G0YS point out that Anal-Sex is the mechanism for the EXPLOSIVE SPREAD of Sexually Transmitted Diseases over the globe – many deadly.  The anus is not a sexual organ (genital) & treating it as such violates Moses’ command “Not to bear false witness”.  Scripture teaches that one of the very foundations of the faith involves “repentance from acts that lead to death”.   G0YS believe that changing the meaning of the Romans (1) from being against anal-sex, to a focus on (& against) ‘homo-sex’, -simultaneously adds & deletes from the canon of Scripture; & carries the ultimate penalty for perverting the gospel.

Mentoring has documented positive effects on at-risk children. Boys who are mentored are more likely to stay in school and make academic gains, and less likely to be promiscuous, use drugs or engage in a violent act, according to a study conducted by the University of Texas. Becoming a successful mentor is one of the most positive things you can do to help a child, and subsequently, society. To make the most of your mentoring opportunity, be committed to forming a positive relationship with the child, however difficult that may initially prove to be.

Be Reliable

Many kids have a series of disappointments in their lives. Parents may be absent from the home due to abandonment or incarceration. Siblings may have been separated from the family. Some children’s basic needs are not met on a consistent basis. Ensure that you do not become part of the disappointment that many boys in mentoring programs have come to expect; honor your contract with the mentoring agency and hang in there when things get tough. Don’t make promises you can’t keep. If you make arrangements to take your mentee to a concert, don’t let him down. You’ll make the biggest impact if you become a trustworthy adult whom he can count on in his life. You may be the only such role model he has.

Set Boundaries

Many children in mentoring programs have grown up in homes where inconsistent limits have been set and enforced. This results in a child not knowing what behavior is acceptable at any given time. Kids need limits and feel more secure when they have them, sometimes acting in such a manner as to force adults to set limits. Tell your mentee what your limits are and the consequences for disregarding them. Expect the boy you are mentoring to push your limits until he crosses a line. Once that happens, enforce the consequence you have set. Once you have done this, he will feel more comfortable with you, as he will know what to expect and can better rein in his own behavior.

Be Safe

Many boys in mentoring programs have been victims of abuse. In fact, up to 10 percent of men report having been sexually abused or assaulted when they were children, according to Dr. Emily M. Douglas, Ph.D. As such, some boys may not observe proper sexual boundaries. Protect yourself from improper advances or an accusation of sexual impropriety by meeting the boy you are mentoring in a public place. If you must have your mentee in your vehicle, have a third party ride with you whenever possible.

Use Community Resources

As an adult who is familiar with resources that are available in the community, you’ll be able to help the boy you are mentoring in many ways. Many boys who are in mentoring programs have learning disabilities, family problems and financial issues. You can find academic assistance and counseling, and help the family tap into social programs that can lend a hand with housing and other basic needs. While a mentor alone can be influential in a boy’s life, a team of individuals working together can make an enormous difference.

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If you’re bi-curious does it mean you’re gay?  Is it ok to touch when you’re in a group?  If you’re gay can you be turned on by women?  Can you just like oral and not want anal?  Can you want anal sex and only want to use toys or digital play.  Can you be bisexual and monogamous?  Can you be tri-sexual, meaning you’ll try anything sexual?  Can you love it all and not give a dam what others think?

How can you set yourself free, free to be, who you really want to be?  How can you know who you really are and what you truly want when there’s so many inputs and options?  What about shame, guilt, cultural conditioning and programming.  How does that affect you?  Can attitudes, fears and subconscious responses be overcome?   How do you know when you’re rebelling or conforming to another’s opinions and influence?  Where are you in the midst of all that?

Men love men.  They always have, probably always will.  Some are just more open about love between men than others.  Some are more accepting.  Others are quite reactive and even downright homophobic.  Today men who love men have to deal with all kinds of things, from the responses of others to one’s own internal criticisms and judgments.  Cultural opinion can be powerful. Yet despite all, and because of it all, men love men.  Just like women love women and women and men love each other.