It’s the Connection

Its the connection – Out of research I’ve done on the internet about everything “gay”

It’s the Connection

Out of the research I’ve done on the Internet about everything “gay” – It’s been my observation & experience that being “g0y” is about the deep connection between a couple of dudes. That connection begins as a friendship that gradually deepens to the point where defenses come down & inhibitions drop as a bond of powerful affection grows – often beside an appreciation of each guy’s masculine traits & physique.

Love is a complex, wonderful language that expresses itself in many ways. Sharing property – such as living space, money or vehicles with another person makes a powerful statement. Sharing laughter, deep conversation & personal issues – likewise is often a strong step toward intimacy. Between a couple of men, reaching a point of trust where sharing touch, nakedness & mutual climax is the ultimate bond of intimacy between a couple of buds.

In my experience, there is a place in the heart of most men where they want affirmation from other strong, masculine men that affirms them as men & does not threaten their masculine core. Is this not exactly what sons want from their fathers on a basic emotional level? Likewise, guys shun ‘sissy-bois’ because sissies do not affirm a joint sense of masculinity. Aggressive boys fight & aggressive bois phuck – - all done for masculine affirmation. But, that affirmation is one of outward roughness & shunning of external perceptions of weakness.

And what is the emotional reaction when one tough guy makes it clear that he values the other guy as much – even more than himself? How does the man feel who realizes that his friend will not raise a hand against him in conflict because his friend values him more as a person than his right to ‘exact vengeance’?

I think we’re beginning to uncover the difference in the feelings between the depths of masculinity vs. the petty vindictiveness of effeminate thoughts, acts & lifestyles of the cowardly. Being g0y is about the deep connection. Being g0y is about loving the wholeness of the other guy so much that the barrier to touch, closeness & emotional intimacy dissolve.

It is a deeply intimate & private thing – never to be lauded or flaunted. Being g0y is a mindset that says (often nonverbally) “Although I am a guy with an arsenal of assault weaponry as close as my fists, — I value you so much that I want to make you feel good – & feel accepted by me – a peer.” It says, “As a guy, being naked makes me vulnerable – but I trust you to be so with you.”. It says, “As a guy, I know that being touched like this has great meaning & feels very good when done in proper context & with total respect; – & because I have such feelings toward you – I enjoy touching you in this way because I accept you totally & want to make you feel very good when near me.” It says, “I accept you without reservation – from your embrace – to your hardened penis that is expressing your mutual feelings as it frantically disgorges the evidence of your reciprocated appreciation – as mine answers in kind.”. It says, “Relax into my hug & into the afterglow’s peace – with no anxiety, or fear – because you are loved & accepted as the virile guy you are; – And I affirm you because I am likewise, such a guy.” It says: “I will never show other’s your weaknesses or do anything that puts you in the light of compromise. I value the secret depths of our friendship so much that only with mutual consent would I ever disclose them.”

Because this is the heart of being g0y – it is why the “gAy” community is virtually unaware of our presence & society does not comprehend our number. G0Y is about the “connection”. It is about the sacred trust of love between guys who show their soft-undersides to each other in a paradigm of “being tough”.

This is what men want & why so many who are in this group have come here. This is the focus of what so many guys write to me about. This is what is missing from the visage of the “gAy male community” as it thrusts it’s arse into everyone’s face.

We are the g0ys. The distinction is self-evident & if you knew who was among our numbers … you’d be astonished!